A few years before I regained my faith in Jesus Christ in 2016, I wrote a sex education book targeted at husbands to help them become great lovers to their wives.
Orgasmic was different from every other sex education book in several ways:
The book was and is something I was very proud of, and I was blessed to get to know a brilliant artist, Geoffrey Klepeis, in the process.
Most husbands have a common problem: How can they sexually satisfy the woman they love so that their wives enjoy being with them? Good husbands are not selfish lovers; they want their wives to revel thoroughly in the sexual experience. Both men and women want and deserve sexual bliss. Both need to find joy and contentment in the sexual act within the marriage.
Unfortunately, men are not born with the knowledge needed to become the best lovers to their wives. So, where does a good man go for answers on satisfying his wife sexually? The internet? Porn sites? Grandpa? His friends?
If only it were that easy. Sex education books today teach the mechanics of sex but ignore the whole person and the centrality of marriage. They ignore the superior joy of sex that can only be found within the marital bed. Porn is much worse; it cheapens the act and reduces the participant’s value. It also normalizes practices that destroy marriages and human dignity.
But we cannot disregard the fact that sexual satisfaction is crucial to lasting happiness within a marriage. Given the ease of divorce and its terrible consequences, a man must master the lovemaking skill before it becomes too late to save his marriage. And the shortage of credible sources makes the trial-and-error period unnecessarily long and fraught with peril.
Orgasmic was designed to give men the information they need to become great lovers and partners to their wives without the drawbacks of existing sex education books and especially without the harm that pornography causes. The book deliberately focuses on self-improvement in both the sexual and nonsexual realms to enhance the effectiveness of the practices to produce the desired result: A sexually-satisfied wife who appreciates her husband and enjoys a lifelong, loving marriage. It starts by establishing the foundation needed for a great marriage, points out that loyalty to one’s wife is not just essential but logical since sexual pleasure is greatest between two that love each other exclusively, and then teaches the various techniques that enhance a woman’s pleasure. The result is a “happy wife.” And as the saying goes, “Happy wife, happy life.”
When I regained my faith in Christ in 2016 and sought to return to full activity in my Church, I had to go through a disciplinary process where I was “disfellowshipped” for a year to address the numerous transgressions I did since my late wife’s death in 2003 when I fell into atheism. Part of the conditions my local leaders imposed was for me to cancel the book. Although I did not see anything morally objectionable in trying to help husbands become better lovers to their wives and strengthen marriages, I complied and ordered all remaining inventories destroyed (four pallets valued at ~$90,000) and instructed my distributor to remove from circulation the EPUB version. And while I still see the book sold on various sites, I have not received any royalties since 2015 and took a financially-crippling blow on the venture.
Of course, one can speculate why my local church leaders objected to the book. It is easy to accuse them of being narrow-minded or having a knee-jerk reaction against anything sexual. But I never thought that way. I believe things happen for a reason, even if I do not see them at the time. And if taking a significant financial loss is a condition for forgiveness, it is a small price to pay.
In hindsight, my church leaders appear prophetic since Orgasmic is repeatedly used to dismiss my credibility. Somehow, writing a sex education book while an atheist to help husbands become better lovers to their wives and strengthen their marriage invalidates my later books as a Christian that promotes and defends Christ and Christianity. But not one of these critics can explain why this should be the case. Why does one invalidate the others? Why is it wrong to write about sex within marriage when God himself sanctioned it within marriage? Also, why is it wrong to write a non-explicit sex education book for men in committed relationships to help their marriage?
I know God has been directing the conditions of my life in such a way that lets me see things others do not. Every time I try to pivot and do things "normal" men do, my circumstances change in such a way that I end up devoting most of my time writing books that can help people have better lives.
For example, my unique life experiences allowed me to see that the New Testament contains internal evidence that it is likely inspired by God (the New Testament is a frameless, unharmonized, correlative anthology). For the first time, Christians of any church can now provide testable evidence that validates their faith. I also saw that the Book of Mormon contains testable evidence of intentional design despite being a known dictated book (one-fifth of the book comprises coherent argumentative essays—a form of writing that cannot be dictated). Also, somehow, I was able to identify the ten natural rights of humanity and show their reliance on Christ’s moral teachings.
I cannot explain how I can do these things – I am not that smart. Neither am I a holy man – I have never had any senior leadership callings in my church. I am a flawed, introverted writer who fails at many things others find easy. But one thing I do know is that I feel the Holy Spirit give me “glimpses” of Truth, and the closer I live by the Spirit, the more frequent and clearer these flashes become.
I am in awe at God’s glory and desire for humanity. I am floored at Christ’s majesty and dominion. I am astounded at the fate of those who become God’s adopted Sons and Daughters. My religious books attempt to help others see what I see to effect change so they can enjoy sharing in God’s nature, oneness, and mutual indwelling.
If only you see what I see when I observe the homeless drug addict – who they are and what they can become in the next life. You would then understand why I write these books.